Looking back in life, you can always see how things came together to where you are now, good or bad. But do you Usually attribute it to luck or fate?
Me, personally, I like to think quasi-fate - that my readiness for certain things and actions, brought me to where I am. Definitely, the more you know what you want, the more likely you'll get it if you keep trying and IF it is truly a good fit or perhaps an experience meant to bring you to your better fit later on.
What gets me thinking this way at the moment is my current happiness in my new job. I sometimes momentarily feel guilty for how awesome my job is and what a perfect fit, but those thoughts are fleeting because I earned this! My job isn't necessarily one that absolutely anyone would feel fulfilled in, but for me, I'm exactly where I want to be and am ecstatic that I work in an organization with an amazing culture, pay that I'm satisfied with, and a position/work that has room to grow! Oh and my commute is 15 minutes tops on surface streets. ;) bet commute I've EVER had (I've never had a commute under 30 minutes via freeway).
Anyways, this job satisfaction makes me SO thankful that other opportunities fell through. Even though I would have taken those opportunities, they wouldn't have been as amazing or perfect for me. So even though I was devastated or disappointed at the time, those flops made way for my perfect job. In this sense I like to think of the events that flowed as fate-like because I certainly would have settled for other jobs if given the opportunity. But as life would have it, I didn't, even though I was in final interview rounds and got quasi-close. Thank you life for shoveling me towards what is perfect for me right now. I wouldn't have had it any other way.
Next time something flops or gets you down, just feel comforted that as long as you keep trying, and stay true to your glues, you'll get what is meant or you.
Look on the bright side! There's always a silver lining... At the very least, things could always be worse!